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Proverbs 9New Living Translation
9 Wisdom has built her house;
she has carved its seven columns.
2 She has prepared a great banquet,
mixed the wines, and set the table.
3 She has sent her servants to invite everyone to come.
She calls out from the heights overlooking the city.
4 “Come in with me,” she urges the simple.
To those who lack good judgment, she says,
5 “Come, eat my food,
and drink the wine I have mixed.
6 Leave your simple ways behind, and begin to live;
learn to use good judgment.”
7 Anyone who rebukes a mocker will get an insult in return.
Anyone who corrects the wicked will get hurt.
8 So don’t bother correcting mockers;
they will only hate you.
But correct the wise,
and they will love you.
9 Instruct the wise,
and they will be even wiser.
Teach the righteous,
and they will learn even more.
10 Fear of the Lord is the foundation of wisdom.
Knowledge of the Holy One results in good judgment.
11 Wisdom will multiply your days
and add years to your life.
12 If you become wise, you will be the one to benefit.
If you scorn wisdom, you will be the one to suffer.
Folly Calls for a Hearing
13 The woman named Folly is brash.
She is ignorant and doesn’t know it.
14 She sits in her doorway
on the heights overlooking the city.
15 She calls out to men going by
who are minding their own business.
16 “Come in with me,” she urges the simple.
To those who lack good judgment, she says,
17 “Stolen water is refreshing;
food eaten in secret tastes the best!”
18 But little do they know that the dead are there.
Her guests are in the depths of the grave.[a]
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1) INTRODUCTION
a) Teenagersaremoreaffectedbyfriendsthanalmostanythingelse,including
sometimes parents and pastors combined.
b) Thedeepestneedofallofus,whetheryoungorold,isforenduring
friendships.
i) The deepest longing of the human heart is for a friend who loves us.
(1) Someone we can share with and commune with.
(2) Someone who truly understands our deepest needs, highest
aspirations and our worst fears.
c) Atruefriendisagreattreasure,butthewrongkindoffriendisthegreatest
danger that a teenager can possibly have.
d) Proverbs17:17
e) Today’smessagewillexplaintwodifferentcategoriesoffriends,three
different categories of teenagers, and will give practical advice to parents as they help their children choose friends wisely.
2) TWOCATEGORIESOFFRIENDS
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a) b)
c)
d)
e) f)
Wehavecasualfriendsthatweministerto.
i) We all have casual friends.
ii) Theseareacquaintancesthatincludeunsavedfriends. Weneedtomakeacquaintanceswiththeunsaved.
i) The Lord Jesus did.
(1) Luke 7:34
(a) Jesus was crucified for being a friend to sinners.
Therearecertaincasualfriendsthatwearetohave.
i) As Christians, we are to be the salt of the Earth.
ii) Wearetobeseparate,butseparationisnotisolation.
(1) We’re to be separated from the sin but not the sinner.
iii) We are to have these casual friends so that we can bring them to Christ. 1Corinthians9:20-23
i) The Apostle Paul is saying in this passage that he knew how to
accommodate unsaved people without making them angry and without compromising his convictions.
(1) This does not mean that those casual friends are to become intimate
friends.
(2) This does not mean that we are to have fellowship with them so that
they are to become our companions. 2Corinthians6:14,17-18
i) The word for “fellowship” in this passage means “intimacy.”
ii) Wearenottohavefellowshipandcommunionwithunsavedpeople. With casual friends, we are making friends for Jesus.
i) Accommodation without compromise
ii) Weinvitethemtochurch.
iii) We show love and friendship.
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iv) But we have no communion, fellowship or intimacy with casual friends. g) Therearecasualfriendswhomwewitnessto,andthenthereareintimate
friends that we fellowship with.
i) Parents should know who their children’s intimate friends are.
(1) Children will be made or broken by their companions. h) Proverbs13:20
i) This passage is not referring to casual acquaintances but is talking about companionship and fellowship.
ii) Ifwehaveungodlypeopleforourcompanions,thenwewillbedestroyed. i) 2 Samuel 13:1-29, 2 Samuel 18:9
i) This is one of the saddest stories in the Bible.
ii) Thiswholetragic,sordidmessbeganbecauseAmnonhadafriend.
(1) Amnon’s friend made a devilish suggestion. j) We will be like our friends.
i) It is not uncommon for teenagers to begin drug habits or drinking because of a friend.
ii) Kidsgethookedonpornographybecausetheywereatsomeone’shouse watching R-rated or X-rated movies.
k) Parentscanevaluatethespiritualconditionoftheirchildrenbytheirfriends.
i) Kids who don’t want to serve God will find other kids just like them.
ii) Godlykidswillalsofindoneanother.
iii) You can learn the spiritual state of your children by watching their
friends.
(1) Listen to their conversation.
(2) See how they are dressed.
(3) Pay attention to the music they listen to.
3) THREECATEGORIESOFYOUNGPEOPLE(PROVERBS1:20-22) a) Proverbs1:20-22
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b)
i) This passage contains the three categories of young people. ii) Everyteenagerisinoneofthesecategories. Thefirstcategoryisthesimple.
i) If your child is simple, it does not mean that he isn’t intelligent or smart.
ii) Theword“simple”means“open.”
iii) Proverbs 1:22
(1) The simple one loves simplicity.
(a) This means that he loves the easy way.
(b) He wants to go through life without any restraint or discipline.
iv) The simple also lacks understanding.
(1) Proverbs 9:1-4
v) A simple person is easily led into sin and error.
(1) Proverbs 14:15
(2) If the simple does not believe God’s Word, then he will believe
anything.
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(a) He will believe Madison Avenue. (b) He will believe false cults.
(c) He will believe sinful friends.
(d) The simple is living in danger.
vi) By nature, all teenagers are simple.
vii) Proverbs 22:3
viii) Simple teenagers think that they are indestructible.
ix) Being simple doesn’t mean that they don’t have character, but they just
don’t understand until they get wisdom from God.
c) Everyteenagerstartsoutassimple,buthecanbecomeascorner.
i) Proverbs 1:22
(1) The simple one loves simplicity, but the scorner delights in scorning.
(a) The scorner has a warped character.
(b) He’s an evil person.
ii) Youcan’ttellhimanything.
(1) You can instruct the simple, but you can’t instruct the scorner.
(2) Proverbs 13:1
iii) He refuses instructions, and he despises godly people.
iv) Proverbs 15:12
(1) Rebuke a scorner, and he will insult you to your face.
v) Proverbs 9:7-8
vi) Proverbs 13:1
vii) Proverbs 13:13
(1) This is referring to everlasting destruction.
viii) A synonym for “scorner” is “smart-aleck.”
d) Thethirdcategoryisthefool.
i) Proverbs 1:22
(1) Fools hate knowledge.
ii) Proverbs1:7
iii) A fool will ridicule righteousness.
(1) Proverbs 14:9
(2) He will laugh at ungodliness, such as immorality, homosexuality,
drunkenness, etc.
iv) He rejoices in sin.
(1) Proverbs 15:21
(2) His moral sense has been perverted.
(a) He doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong.
(b) Isaiah 5:20
v) Proverbs 26:11
vi) Proverbs 17:10
vii) His heart is hard, his conscience is seared, and his mind is defiled. (1) Punishment will not change him.
(2) His moral sensibilities have been destroyed.
viii) Don’t let your children hang around scorners or fools.
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4) WHATCANPARENTSDOTOHELPTHEIRCHILDREN?
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a)
Helpthemunderstandthedangersthatareinvolved. i) They do not understand the dangers.
ii) Proverbs19:25
(1) Young people do not see the consequences of sin because we have so dumbed down those consequences.
(2) Young people need to understand that there are consequences to sin. iii) Parents should take their children to the rescue mission so that they can
see the other side of addictions.
(1) The advertising that kids see for alcoholic beverages will never show
this other side.
iv) Your children need to understand that sin has repercussions. Carefullyguardtheircompany.
i) Proverbs 13:20
ii) Proverbs22:10
iii) Don’t allow your kids to hang around a scorner or fool.
iv) Parents should meet any boy who wants to date their daughter. Teachthemtheimportanceoftheirchoices.
i) Life is the sum total of our choices.
ii) Everychoicechangesus.
iii) We are free to choose, but we’re not free to choose the consequences of
our choice.
(1) After we choose, then our choice chooses for us. Helpyourchildrenselecttheirfriends.
i) One of the best things you can do is to make your home the most fun
place in town.
ii) Haveyourchildrenandtheirfriendsinyourhomesothatyoucanwatch
them and see what they’re like. Refusetohonorfools.
i) Proverbs 26:1
(1) Don’t get your entertainment from a fool.
ii) Don’tletyourchildrengotoconcertsorotherentertainmentvenues
where they will be entertained by those who have set themselves against
God and against wisdom.
There are additional things that parents need to do:
i) Have a positive attitude.
(1) Don’t talk down to your kids. (a) Words can hurt children.
(2) Don’t use words that belittle or put them down.
(3) Use words that build them up.
ii) Learntolistentothem.
iii) Try to see life from their point of view.
(1) Kids today are facing things that their parents never had to face.
b)
c)
d)
e)
f)
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iv) Be gentle with them.
(1) Psalm 18:35
(2) Fathers whose children adore them are strong and wise, but gentle.
(a) They are not harsh, and they don’t yell. v) Learn to touch and hug your teenager.
(1) Learn to show non-verbal expression.
(2) Be gentle with your kids. vi) Be transparent.
(1) Let them know your faults.
(a) They already know that you’re not perfect.
(2) Your kids don’t necessarily want you to be perfect; they just don’t want you to be a phony.
vii) Be available to your kids.
(1) A lack of a close relationship with a father is one of the biggest factors
to encouraging promiscuity in young girls, even more so than poverty. (a) Promiscuity is much less likely when there is a close relationship to
the father.
5) CONCLUSION
a) Itisokaytohavecasualfriendships.
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b) c)
d)
e) f)
g) h)
i) Invite them to church.
ii) Befriendly.
iii) Go out to eat together after the church service.
iv) But your teenagers should not make these kids their companions.
(1) Proverbs 13:20
Atruefriendissomeonewhoisfaithful.
i) Proverbs 17:17 Atruefriendissomeonewhoencouragesyouandmakesyoubetter.
i) They will sharpen you.
ii) Proverbs27:17 Oneofthemarksastowhetherornotyourfriendisatrue,godlyfriendis are you a better person for having been with that friend, or is he or she a better person for having been with you?
i) A true friend will challenge you.
ii) Proverbs27:6
Chooseyourfriendscarefully.
One of the greatest joys of your life or one of the greatest disappointments will be your friends. Thereisonefriendwhostickscloserthanabrother,andHisnameisJesus. i) Proverbs 18:24
ii) He’stheonewhowillguideyoutotherightfriendships. DoyouknowJesuspersonally?Ifnot,youcanpraytoHimtodaybyasking Him to come into your life.
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i)
Call upon Jesus today. Repent (turn) from your sins, and turn to Jesus. Ask Him to forgive you of your sins, and acknowledge Him as Lord of your life.
i) Romans 3:23
ii) Romans10:9-10
iii) Romans 10:13
iv) Acts 16:31
v) John 3:16
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