Kate Middleton and Prince William: Marriage made in Heaven? (Part 17)

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Catherine Middleton

Catherine Middleton arrives at Westminster Abbey, 29 April 2011.

Royal Wedding: William and Kate’s First Kiss, Too Short for Buckingham Palace Balcony

Prince William and Kate moved in together about a year ago. In this clip above the commentator suggested that maybe Prince Charles and Princess Diana would not have divorced if they had lived together before marriage. Actually Diana was a virgin, and it was Charles’ uncle (Louis Mountbatten) that gave him the advice that he should seek to marry a virgin.

I really do wish Kate and William success in their marriage. I hope they truly are committed to each other, and if they are then the result will be a marriage that lasts their whole lifetime. Nevertheless, I do not think it is best to live together before marriage like they did, and I writing this series to help couples see how best to prepare for marriage.
 
 

Whether you call it “test-driving marriage,” “living together,” “shacking up” or “living in sin,” cohabitation is on the rise. Sadly, so are the consequences of sharing a home without the commitment of marriage.

So, what do you do if you’re convinced that living together is/was a bad idea, after all?(There are 5 things you should do and the first 2 were in last post and the last 3 today.)

  1. If the person you’re living with disagrees with changing your relationship, is he or she really worth having anyway? Ask, “So you love me enough to live with me, but not enough to keep dating me and work toward a lifelong commitment together?” If that’s the case, ask yourself, “What kind of commitment is that?”
  2. Get some support. It’s probable this won’t be an easy transition. Doing the right thing rarely is. Whether you’re faced with the loss of a lover who wasn’t willing to stick around after you moved out, or you’re just going through sexual withdrawal (because he was willing to make the change with you and now you’re abstaining), it will be easier to honor your new way of relating sex-free if you have the encouragement of other people. Spend time with couples who agree with your decision to live apart until marriage. Seek out the input of a pastor or other trusted adviser who will reinforce your decision. Don’t go it alone. The temptation is too great.
  3. Get married. If your reason for moving out is to improve your chances for a lifelong marriage, why not get started? If you were serious enough to live together, you should be serious enough to seal the deal. Talk about getting married. If he/she is willing, find a premarital counselor. The best place to start the search is at church. Going through a class together should help you make a wise decision about your suitability for marriage to each other. And if you’re not meant to be, why delay the inevitable. Life’s too short to waste precious time with the wrong partner.
Copyright © 2002, Brad Lewis. All rights reserved. International copyright secured. Used by permission.

1Only 30 percent of couples who live together actually get married. John D. Cunningham and John K. Antill, “Cohabitation and Marriage: Retrospective and Predictive Comparisions,” Journal of Social and Personal Relationships 11 (1994), pp. 77-93.
2Ibid.
3From a nationwide survey conducted by the University of Rhode Island, quoted in “Live-in Relationship More Prone to Violence,” by Robert Haddocks, South Coast Today, http://www.s-t.com/projects/DomVio/Livein.html
4Michael D. Newcomb and P.M. Bentler, “Assessment of Personality and Demographic Assets of Cohabitation and Marital Success,” Journal of Personality Assessment, 1980, p.16.
5Cunningham and Antill.
 

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