Kate Middleton and Prince William: Marriage made in Heaven? (Part 1)

Notice the little girl with the frown. No doubt after reading this article you may think that my attitude is much like her’s. That would not be true. I really do hope they have a great marriage. This series of posts that I am starting today is more about how people can best plan for a marriage where both will live “happily ever after.”

I will do some more research but at this point it appears that Kate moved in with Prince William in college and about a year ago they again moved in together.

I have been married for over 25 years now and my three sisters have all been married for almost that same amount of time. However, many things have changed over the last few decades and one of those is the old fashioned view that people should not live together before marriage.

I am a conservative republican which indicates my views concerning our liberal president Obama. Nevertheless, I really do respect the effort he gives to be a good father and husband.

Prince William and Kate moved in together about a year ago. Take a look at this clip.

In this clip above the commentator  suggested that maybe Prince Charles and Princess Diana would not have divorced if they had lived together before marriage. Actually Diana was a virgin, and it was Charles’ uncle (Louis Mountbatten) that suggested to him that he seek to marry a virgin.

I am starting a series today that will look at this issue of living together. It is based on the article “Should We Live Together? What Young Adults Need to Know about Cohabitation before Marriage,” by Josh McDowell. Here is a portion of the article below:

“Living together before marriage is one of America’s most significant and unexpected family trends.  By simple definition, living together-or unmarried cohabitation–is the status of couples who are sexual partners, not married to each other, and sharing a household. By 1997, the total number of unmarried couples in America topped 4 million, up from less than half a million in 1960.1  It is estimated that about a quarter of unmarried women between the ages of 25 and 39 are currently living with a partner and about half have lived at some time with an unmarried partner (the data are typically reported for women but not for men).  Over half of all first marriages are now preceded by cohabitation, compared to virtually none earlier in the century.”2

“What makes cohabitation so significant is not only its prevalence but also its widespread popular acceptance.  In recent representative national surveys nearly 60% of high school seniors indicated that they ‘agreed’ or ‘mostly agreed’ with the statement ‘it is usually a good idea for a couple to live together before getting married in order to find out whether they really get along.’ And nearly three quarters of the students, slightly more girls than boys, stated that ‘a man and a woman who live together without being married’ are either ‘experimenting with a worthwhile alternative lifestyle’ or ‘doing their own thing and not affecting anyone else.’”3

“Unlike divorce or unwed childbearing, the trend toward cohabitation has inspired virtually no public comment or criticism.  It is hard to believe that across America, only thirty years ago, living together for unmarried, heterosexual couples was against the law.4   And it was considered immoral–living in sin–or at the very least highly improper.  Women who provided sexual and housekeeping services to a man without the benefits of marriage were regarded as fools at best and morally loose at worst.  A double standard existed, but cohabiting men were certainly not regarded with approbation”

“Today, the old view of cohabitation seems yet another example of the repressive Victorian norms.  The new view is that cohabitation represents a more progressive approach to intimate relationships.  How much healthier women are to be free of social pressure to marry and stigma when they don’t.  How much better off people are today to be able to exercise choice in their sexual and domestic arrangements.  How much better off marriage can be, and how many divorces can be avoided, when sexual relationships start with a trial period.”

“Surprisingly, much of the accumulating social science research suggests otherwise.  What most cohabiting couples don’t know, and what in fact few people know, are the conclusions of many recent studies on unmarried cohabitation and its implications for young people and for society.  Living together before marriage may seem like a harmless or even a progressive family trend until one takes a careful look at the evidence.”

The Save Your sex Summit took place in Chicago featuring author and Speaker, Josh McDowell. Teenagers and youth groups came from all over the city to hear him speak on the Importance of Saving sex til Marriage.

For more information or additional copies of this publication, contact:

The National Marriage Project Rutgers
The State University of New Jersey
25 Bishop Place
New Brunswick, NJ 08901-1181
(732) 932-2722
marriage@rci.rutgers.edu

 January, 1999
 
1.  U. S. Bureau of the Census. 1998. Marital Status and Living Arrangements: March, 1997.

2.  Larry Bumpass and Hsien-Hen Lu. 1998. “Trends in Cohabitation and Implications for Children’s Family Contexts.” Unpublished manuscript, Madison, WI: Center for Demography, University of Wisconsin. The most likely to cohabit are people aged 20 to 24.

3.  J. G. Bachman, L. D. Johnston and P. M. O’Malley. 1997. Monitoring the Future: Questionnaire Responses  from the Nation’s High School Seniors, 1995. Ann Arbor, MI: Survey Research Center at the University of Michigan.

4.  The state statutes prohibiting “adultery” and “fornication,” which included cohabitation, were not often enforced.

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Prince William has arrived at Westminster Abbey with his best man, brother Prince Harry, for his wedding to Kate Middleton. Thousands of people lined the street to watch the procession. (April 29)

Wedding in Progress

In this image taken from video, Britain’s Prince William and Kate Middleton stand at the alter at Westminster Abbey. (AP Photo/APTN)
Prince William and Prince Harry leave Clarence House for the wedding ceremony at Westminster Abbey.
Kate Middleton is led by her father Michael Middleton along the aisle at Westminster Abbey. (AP Photo/Dominic Lipinski, Pool)
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